Five Tips for Gentlemen

Chastity Miller, Staff Writer

Hello there men, it’s a woman here. Now, this isn’t for every single guy out there. Don’t get me wrong, there are tons of guys that are nothing like what I am about to describe. (They are doing it right!) I’m here to try and make things a little easier for all those  guys who are confused about how to treat women correctly. Simply put, treating women correctly will make everyone’s lives easier. So, here’s a little guide filled with tips and tricks to always keep in mind.

Tip 1: Always try and listen.

Don’t talk over us. For example, don’t repeat ideas that we just said and take it as your own, leaving you with all of the credit (not cool bro). Be open to the fact that sometimes we know more than you and you could learn from us.

Tip 2: No means no.

If a girl ‘friend-zones’ you, take it as a hint. She isn’t interested. Move on and let things be. Don’t antagonize her and make the situation uncomfortable for both of you. Respect what her decisions and be aware of the fact that women aren’t just for desires or for looking after you as a personal maid.

Tip 3: Include us in your lives.

Now, this does not mean drag us around and make us follow you like a puppy. There’s a healthy balance of spending time together as well as apart. You can hang out with your buds, but we shouldn’t be living separate lives. Encourage us to hang out with your friends, and you can come out with our mates, but for the love of God, do not flirt with them. Also, try to make it an even balance between cooking and cleaning. Worship us, and we’ll do the same back. Oh, and uh…don’t cheat on us – if you want out, then be a man and tell us to our face. Is communication that difficult?

Tip 4: Catcalling is not okay.

This is for the guys that pass by the girls they like: catcalling is not okay… ever. Even if you just intend to flatter, it really isn’t flattering. It will make us feel like a target or make us think you’re only looking at something that isn’t our face. Compliments are nice, but hissing ‘beautiful lady’ as we walk past you on the way somewhere is not a compliment, it’s a power play that makes you look degrading. Honestly, if you think a girl is pretty, then go up and say just that to her, instead of trying to make yourself look cool in front of your friends.

Tip 5: Treat her right

Hold the door for her, treat her with kindness, be open with her (feelings and all), and do not act like she doesn’t matter. Look into her eyes and make her feel comfortable to the point where she can be herself and doesn’t have to pretend to be someone fancier or someone she’s not.

All I’m saying is, it’s not hard at all to be a good guy and treat a girl the right way.  All in all, we want to be treated with respect and feel loved. Treat others the way you would like to be treated; respect us, and you’ll receive the same back. There’s always room for more positivity, but there is never any room for immature actions and useless excuses.